To the Father-less

Discussion in 'Help From Above' started by Nailhead Ronnie, Jun 16, 2018.

  1. Nailhead Ronnie

    Nailhead Ronnie Political Analyst

    Trust me I know how bad this whole father day holiday can be. Watching and hearing about those with fathers, and you not having one. To those whos Dads have died, been abandoned by, or never known of know we do have a dad in heaven. Jesus son of God who always looks out for us father less, who will never leave us and always protect us and who is happy and proud of us to be his children. Always talk to your heavenly father and let him know how you are doing. For he missing you and loves you more than any one.
     
  2. Smokey15

    Smokey15 So old that I use AARP bolts.

    Very nice Sir.
     
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  3. Golden Oldie 65

    Golden Oldie 65 Well-Known Member

    I lost my dad to a stroke 32 years ago. I'm not traumatized by it because I'm a realist and I know it just the evolution of life, but I loved my dad and very few days go by that I don't wish he were still here. It would even be nice just to spend a day or a week with him if it were possible because I know there are still many things he could still teach me. As for our own kids, we're lucky. They're not perfect and there have certainly been days when we wish we were childless :D Still, my daughter came and took me to lunch this week on her day off and my son (he's in CA) sent me a very nice Father's Day card and he wrote on it that he hopes that he can turn out to be half the man that I am. Things like that are what are priceless, but I wrote him back and told him that what he might find interesting is that I've spent most of my life hoping to be half the man my dad was and that to this day I am still trying to make him proud of me. Happy Father's Day to my own father, God rest his soul.
     
  4. bhambulldog

    bhambulldog 1955 76-RoadmasterRiviera

    Thanks Ronnie.
     
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  5. faster

    faster Well-Known Member

    My dad is 93 this last May. He is just a wisper of the man he was, but still has his faculties so we get to still have time together watching a ball game on TV. The most generous man I've ever met.

    Mikey
     
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  6. TrunkMonkey

    TrunkMonkey Well-Known Member

    Yeah. It is a very odd place to be.

    On the one hand, I never knew my father, but after seeing my children and grandchildren, I "see" my father, because there are some "genetic" things that simply defy any other explanation.

    So, after many years, I am coming to a place where it is oddly "getting to know my father" and even missing him more than ever.

    And I lost my uncle (Leonard) in 1984, at 54 years old. And having lived longer than them is a "peculiar" mind puzzle in it's own way.

    But, I am very happy for those who have father/son/daughter relationships, and not a bit of "jealousy", but a very profound appreciation for what those people have.

    And for those who have fathers, and those fathers with children. Call them, tell them about the tings you remember of each other.

    Do it for those of us who cannot. And thanks, Ronnie for your thoughtfulness. :)

    60 years. It's a long time, and a short time...

    https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/34161131/norris-wayne-abbott
     
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  7. Nailhead Ronnie

    Nailhead Ronnie Political Analyst

    My father abondened my family when I was 14 , i remember the day he left my mom and my lil bro he told me "im not coming back, and you will underatand this when your older" I turned to others to fill that hole, I turned to the streets to make money for my family. No one could fill that hole, no money not nothinh.
    All the older guys i hung with let me down one way or abothet. I been shot at for being with these knuckleheads. Robbed and much more..
    , it took me years to understand that only God could fill that hole and come to the understanding of my original post.

    I am 32 now and since I was 14 to the age of 28 I would seek my father out, because he lived close to me but he would avoid me and ignore my calls. I had a hate in my heart that spilled over to all aspects of my life. I though all people were bad, I trusted no one and had killed that little voice in my head that stops people from doing bad.

    That old me is dead now, I look back and I am glad I broke the chain of my father. And my fathers father. I broke it just in time before I have my son, and I never could understand or comprehend what my father told me when he left, I don't get how a man could leave his family and never look back, its such a coward thing to do.
    My new dad is Jesus and he will never abandon me and has my back. Up and onward for me and for you too. You who haven't had a dad you got one upstairs looking down on you and looking after your every move.
     
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  8. Smokey15

    Smokey15 So old that I use AARP bolts.

    I've never met my birth dad or mother. I was adopted, as an infant, from a family of 17. 5 of my siblings were also adopted out. We all went to families where my birth mother could keep track of us. (Birth dad died) I knew I was adopted, but never knew of siblings until after my Mom, who raised me, passed. Upon finding each other, I had no expectations of any relationships. They had existed for a long time without me. Turns out they found the rest of those adopted out and were searching for me. I now have a great relationship with them. I just wish my Mom, or Dad had told me of them. I guess they had their reasons. I very much lover and appreciate my Mom and Dad, who raised me. I was quite lonely as an only child though and always felt 'something was missing'. Now I understand. Only my Dad, who raised me, and God ever really had my back.
     
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  9. Smokey15

    Smokey15 So old that I use AARP bolts.

    Ronnie, it was a poor choice and your father's loss to have abandoned you and your Brother. I wonder what his "reasons" were and why he would avoid you so as to never explain. You've turned out to be a very good man and I'm glad to be sharing with you here. God did a wonderful job guiding your life to where you are today. I hope your Brother did as well.
     
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  10. Nailhead Ronnie

    Nailhead Ronnie Political Analyst

    Thank you Sir, my brother did really well. He gives me father day presents and tells me I'm like his Dad. He is 25 and working on his master's while teaching middle school. I'm proud of him. And glad to have you as a friend from a far. It would be cool to meet you one day.
     
  11. Smokey15

    Smokey15 So old that I use AARP bolts.

    Wow! I'd like to meet you and your Brother as well, Ronnie.
     
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  12. faster

    faster Well-Known Member

    Ronnie my heart aches for what you had to go through, I'm so sorry. As a Chaplain in the State of Florida Juvenile detention system I see that scenario play out a dozen times a week. Fathers who abandone their children are too commonplace in America, I don't understand how anyone can leave their children behind. We have church on Monday nights in the jail and anywhere from 6 to 30 kids will show up. As we are leaving some will ask if I will come visit during the week. Some of these kids have been in jail for months up to a year with not one relative coming to visit ever. It's not possible to visit them all. When I sign their visitation log you can see no one else has ever come. It is hard to get them to comprehend a loving God when they have never been able to trust anything or anyone. When no one has taken care of them; then add in guards who tell them we're phonies and there is no God. The problem is there are just not enough "Christians" willing to take a couple hours out of their week to go do visitation to these youth. Dozens of churches locally with thousands of attendees and I might see six people do visitation. Kinda hard to show them a God who loves them.

    Ronnie I place Luke 10:19 around you and your family. May God give you wisdom, knowledge and understanding.

    Mikey
     
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