My Mother in law Marvolyn Smith passed away suddenly on friday. We have been making the trip every weekend to see Terry's parents. We were there Saturday the 23rd and she seemed fine well as good as she could. But she went on a golf cart ride through the lake development where she lived with my daughter and my 7 year old grandson. We let him drive as long as he's sitting in some ones lap. he doe's a pretty good job when he pays attention Anyway she was laughing and having a great time. On Monday my wife came home very sick from work and on Tuesday her father was calling. He did not know what to do Mom was sick and very weak. After several calls to me at the firehouse it was decided to have an ambulance transport her to the emergency room. My wife called to make sure everything was fine and was told that her father had left after Mom was put on a respirator. My wife and her Mother are very close and she was a wreck, so for the first time in 20 years on the job I left work to take her to see her Mom. After a close call Tuesday where the doctors suggested we disconnect her life support. Terry was devistated and could not do it. Her mom had a living will and advance directives but Terry could not let go. It was decided to at least leave her on until her only son Mike could fly in from Dallas the next afternoon. We were told that she would not make it through the night. Well I went home at 230 am to check on the dogs and was to pick Mike up at 1 pm at the airport. I spoke with Terry Wednesday and her mother was off the ventilator and was trying to speak. When we all arrived Mike was able to speak to her and she was alert and was able to softly speak. I went to my shift Thursday feeling like a miracle had happened and she was going to get better. Friday we all went to the hospital to visit and were told to get dinner as they were going to do some tests and she needed her rest. While we were out she had a massive heart attack and while she was still with us she was very sick and injured. They broke ribs doing CPR. She was still sick from her other issues and was not getting better. It was decided not to make her suffer any more, at least her brother was there to help Terry make the decision this time. Dad was a wreck and has beginning altzheimers so he just could not be much help. So now we are going to bury a wonderful christian woman on Tuesday and we will be trying to assist Dad because he doesn't want to move in with us. He insists on staying in his home. He lives an hour away. So we will probably have to start making trips during the week.
John you and your family will be in our thoughts. We just lost Jenn's Mom 2 weeks ago so we truly feel your loss and pain. Prayers sent from our family to yours
Sorry for your loss, John. Be strong for Terry and her Dad, he is going to bear close watching...don't ask me how I know.
My wife just lost her father and she was a daddies girl so I know how things are. Prayers coming in from Canada God Bless, Larry
Thank you all. My wife is still having trouble because she was so close to her mother and today she had to go through her clothes (her dad asked her to donate them). Terry will recover but it will be tough. The spring was the time they spent a lot of time planting flowers and weeding flower beds. Monday she returns to work and then I guess we will find out how well shes doing. Again thank you all for the thoughts and prayers.
Wow John, I hope your wife and family feel better in time..It's hard losing our loved ones, but just know she's still with you in spirit!! My prayers our with you guys in your time of grief..God bless
I am sorry for your loss and the sadness that Terry is feeling. Please keep a close eye on your father in law, maybe you can persuade him to move closer to you, he is going to need you guys more than ever now....
