I am having lunch with my wife today. My wife and I have been seperated since January of 04.For those of you who read this today,I could use alot of prayers.Prayers that today will be blessed,and that our time together will be a first step towards a restored marriage and family. This is something I have been praying for since she left,that God makes changes in me to accept my wife and stepson for who they are,and that God will open up her spirit to me. I am excited and quite nervous.Pray God gives me the words to speak to her. We see each other every few weeks when I visit our baby,but we don't really talk about important things,just general chit chat.Pray that changes today and we can speak about our relationship. I could ask for thousands of prayers in this situation.Just pray for what God lays on your heart in this situation. Thanks.
Kase, you have prayers from Nebraska that you get what you want and that you both will be happy in the end.
Kase I'll be praying for you in La. I'm on my second go 'round and this one's for keeps. She's my best friend. My friends laugh (or used to anyway) because we call each other 2-3x a day to check in and tell each other I love you. Man I hope you guys work it out especially for the kids' sake. Let us know how the lunch goes. Good luck :TU:
Keep the faith. I have a friend that was separated from his wife for about two years. They were living apart, I think she was even dating other men but they continued to drive separately to the same church and sit together during the service. They finally worked everything out and got back together. That's been probably ten or fifteen years ago and they continue to do great! I hope that story is an encouragement to you that it can happen. I would encourage you to talk about serious stuff (in small bites) and find a counselor that you both like; if you both are willing to work then you can turn this deal around. You are in our thoughts and prayers. K
Thank you all for your prayers and wishes. I met my wife at 1 this afternoon,and we had all the kids.Hers mine and ours.We had a nice time.Some laughs and conversations.She told me about her new buisness and our boys pretty much talked to each other the whole time.Our baby went back and forth between the two of us,and her daughter just bounced around the table.It was very nice.I hated for it to end,but she said she had to go lookfor more buisness.There was a new convention center that opened this weekend,and she was trying to drum up buisness. Anyway,we didn't get deep into our relationship,but I truly believe it was a very good first step.Just have to go forward from there. Anyway,we are supposed to get together next weekend,and I can only hope that it will be as nice.We have pleasant visits,but never anything discussed,so I am hoping that can change soon.Anyway,thanks again guys.Just keep praying for her to have an open spirit to me to allow me access to her so that we can restore our marriage.Whether it takes 2 months or two more years. Be blessed.
Prayer is great, but God will not force the conscience or take away one's free choice to act and speak as they choose. Tough choices need to be made. I too have a blended family. It is a difficult road, but not only possible, it can flourish if the two love each other enough. Parenting is the hardest part of a blended family, and trusting that a step parent is being fair with your kids is the hardest part of that. Remember your marriage is a covenant relationship, your children are not. If either of you give the kids the power to destroy your marriage, you have no chance. Both of you must decide that the marriage is bigger than the children, and trust each other in the raising of the kids (this is assuming there is no actual abuse of the children happening, otherwise all bets are off).The first step to making this work is letting the kids know that no amount of dessention or manipulation by the kids will be tolerated by either of you (this is extremely important! You must put forth a united front every time). I hope nothing but the best for you and your family. I would keep in mind that no matter how much you want this, and no matter how good it seems, it takes two. Both parties need to put the other first, and it can't work if just one is willing to do that.It may cost you your hobbies and she should want it enough to do the same. Self must come last, and God first, for both parties. If you can't do this, then do not put the kids through another devastating break-up experience (even if they try to act casual about it).You asked us to respond to what was on our hearts about this. This is what the Holy Spirit is telling me in my heart. I thought about doing this by private message, but you may not be the only one who is dealing with a similar situation.
You two are in my prayers. Remember you made a vow before God in this marriage and what you honor He will honor. If you stay true and faithful to your wife and the Lord, He will stay true and faithful to you and restore your marriage. I'm serious about this. God always honors His word and He was a part of your initial vows and they are important to Him. You keep them important to you and watch Him bring this all back together. Be blessed. Mikey
I'm new to this forum, but I came across your post and wanted you to know that I have prayed for the restoration of your marriage. I hope your lunch went very well and was a positive first step. D in St. Louis
